Tuesday, August 19, 2008

To move "home" or not to move "home"

Well we just moved ourselves back up to New York! I will not be returning home during any future deployments, it is just too much trouble for us.

I see the question about weather or not to "move home" during deployments on bullatin boards for military wives all the time. It also seems like everyone has very strong opinions about if you should go home or not. I think this is a question that can only be answered by you. What is your specific circumstances and situation and what would be best for your family.

Some of the advantages of "going home" is that you are closer to family and friends to provide support (and help with children if you have any). It can also be cheaper for your family if you move in with parents or other family members. For me I had an easier time getting a job in Texas than anywhere else (I have no idea why).

Some of the disadvantages are that you are disconnected from the military community and whatever services and support your particular base offers and may miss out of special activities put on by your FRG (video teleconfrences, FRG meetings, and redeployment briefs and ceremonies for example).

So if this is a question you deal with know that you are the only person that can come up with the right answer for you. Talk to friends, family and other military wives about the decision but don't let any of them force a decision upon you. Once you do decide be happy about the advantages of your decision and don't dwell on the disadvantages-deployments are hard enough!

More soon!!!

So much stuff!!!!!

I am going to get better at posting on a regular basis! Soon-I hope!

I just moved from Texas to New York. While unpacking my daughters "school supplies" and putting them on the shelf I have allotted for them I realized that we have a TON of educational stuff for her and she isn't even three yet!!

I'm not complaining but we should be set for a while! I think I am going to lay off buying stuff for her for a while!

More soon!

Moving

I will eventually get better at posting here more regularly I promise!!!

I just got finished moving from Texas to upstate New York. My husband returned from a deployment in Iraq, flew to Texas, packed up what I hadn't managed to pack yet in our house. Then we drove to Arkansas and spent three days camping and digging for diamonds at Crater of Diamonds park and digging for crystals at a local crystal mine as well as some other sightseeing and general family time. After three days in Arkansas we drove another 5 hours to my husband's friends house in Tennessee where we spent another three days. We had a great time and the trip was not to bad on my until the last three days.

Three days of driving 7+ hours a day (we were pulling a very full trailer so it slowed us down a bit) was really hard on me. I was aching everywhere when we got here but I tried to keep up.

It seems like since we got here I've been having my worst flair since I got diagnosed. I haven't been able to get out of bed until late in the morning -noon some days. I have had very little energy during the day when I do get moving. Its really hard because I feel like I am not helping enough with the moving in. I had enough energy for quite a bit of unpacking the first two days but the last few have been really BLAH! Luckily my husband is totally understanding and doesn't push me. I just hope this flair passes before he goes back to work and my daughter insists on getting up at 7!

I know this is temporary but it is still frustrating. I am trying to keep my spirits up and conserve and ration my energy....just waiting for better days!!

The next post I'll be sure to include more useful information and less complaining :)!!!